Individual Psychotherapy

Psychotherapy, sometimes called talk therapy, is the process of speaking openly with a trained clinician to better understand one's thoughts, emotions, and relational patterns, and through that understanding, find more effective ways of living. Unlike structured, technique-driven modalities, this approach is not guided by homework assignments or skills-based training, although such elements can come up naturally as the work unfolds.

Psychotherapy typically begins with developing a shared understanding of what brings someone to counseling and what they hope to gain from it. From there, sessions are guided by the areas of work we have agreed on, as well as whatever else the person brings in for discussion. We work together to make meaning of what is brought in and move toward the desired changes.

My approach to psychotherapy is psychodynamic. Rather than following a predetermined program, close attention is paid to recurring themes, emotional patterns, and the ways past experiences continue to shape present ones. Gradually, what once felt confusing becomes clearer. To learn more about where this approach comes from and how it works, you can read my article on the origins of the talking cure.

I work particularly well with adults who are curious about themselves and motivated to engage in open, exploratory conversation.

My common areas of focus include anxiety, depression, trauma, grief, obsessive and ruminative thinking, and relational difficulties including rigid patterns that strain relationships.

I offer in-person sessions at my downtown Jersey City office, three blocks from the Grove Street PATH station, and virtual sessions throughout New Jersey.

The therapist’s job is to do everything in her power not just to promote self-understanding but to encourage experimentation.
— Jeffrey A. Kottler, Psychologist & Author